I have always wanted a large family. My definition of large is 3-4 children. It would be so wonderful to have that many children and then each of them to have that many children and grow old with them (kids and grandchildren). Seeing the movie The Family Stone encourages this even more for me. I love that movie!! Watching the t.v show Arrested Development encourages this even more. There's nothing better than a large dysfunctional family!
But it takes two to tango and Jorge says he only wants two children. I told him if that is how he felt he better get "snipped," because I want more children. Even during those last few miserable weeks of being pregnant I went into labor wanting more kids.
During those last few weeks of pregnancy he went to the doctor for a vasectomy consultation, he came home as though he had seen a ghost. Those 30 mins traumatized him. Even though the doctor assured him that it was an outpatient procedure and would only take 15 mins. I think going online and looking at before and after pictures really ruined it for him.
After we talked about it I also had my doubts about the "snipage" that would take place. That would be a definite end to my child bearing days, no more beautiful children, no more feeling a baby move around in my tummy EVER.
It was too much for me to take in, so we canceled the thought of him getting a vasectomy ( I'm sure for different reasons) and brainstormed on other options.
Condoms? No, we all know that doesn't feel the same. Withdrawl method? Yea right, my luck I would have children 10 months apart, no thank you! Abstinence? Lol-yea right, HE could never do that...I mean we. So I got an IUD the other day, the Mirena. Does it seem fair that I had to be pregnant for 80 weeks and then go through 2 natural births and then be the one who prevents us from getting pregnant again? Why do the women have to do all the work? Anyway, it was completely painless, took about 5 mins. She just placed the IUD on my cervix and we're good to go for 5 years. In 5 years I will be 33, wow!! Of course I can always have it removed sooner, but Hudson and Mia are going to have to be a little more self sufficient before I consider getting pregnant again. They need to be potty trained, be able to feed themselves and be able to bathe themselves...that would be nice.
I do still dream of a large family. But is it realistic when you have to have so much money to raise them? Especially big expenses like cars, colleges, weddings..etc. If it is meant to be it will be. Mirena is suppose to be 99% effective. What are the odds that I would be that 1%?
Wednesday, July 28, 2010
Wednesday, July 14, 2010
I told you to give me a key!
Let me preface this story by saying my mom has been asking for a key to our house since we moved in, it's not enough that she has the code that opens the garage door, so...
When Mia was about 3 weeks old Jorge was in the garage cleaning it out and painting it trying to make it look all pretty and clean. Hudson and I had gone bike riding for about 45 minutes or so and Mia was chillin' in her swing in the living/dining room area asleep. When Hudson and I returned Jorge said that we had somehow got locked out of the house and that we needed to call a Locksmith. I could hear Mia crying inside and knew that the Locksmith was not going to be here on time. It's not like she was on top of the kitchen counter or sitting next to a tiger, but my mother's instinct said, "we have to get her out of there, break the window!!" So Jorge went and got a hammer and busted the window open, glass went everywhere! He went in the house and she was still chillin' with her eyes closed, probably didn't even notice that we were gone. So we had to call and get estimates and wait a WEEK for the window to get repaired because they had to order the glass. During that week my mother popped by to say hello (while I was gone). I asked Jorge if she saw the window and he said yes. In my mother's voice I said, " You should have given me a key and this never would have happened." Jorge said yes, that is EXACTLY what she said. I will not post on here how much we paid to repair the DOUBLE paned window, but it was a few hundred pennies...The lesson to this story is not that my mother was right but that we need to make sure we have a key hidden somewhere. Maybe we should invest in one of those "fake" rocks.
When Mia was about 3 weeks old Jorge was in the garage cleaning it out and painting it trying to make it look all pretty and clean. Hudson and I had gone bike riding for about 45 minutes or so and Mia was chillin' in her swing in the living/dining room area asleep. When Hudson and I returned Jorge said that we had somehow got locked out of the house and that we needed to call a Locksmith. I could hear Mia crying inside and knew that the Locksmith was not going to be here on time. It's not like she was on top of the kitchen counter or sitting next to a tiger, but my mother's instinct said, "we have to get her out of there, break the window!!" So Jorge went and got a hammer and busted the window open, glass went everywhere! He went in the house and she was still chillin' with her eyes closed, probably didn't even notice that we were gone. So we had to call and get estimates and wait a WEEK for the window to get repaired because they had to order the glass. During that week my mother popped by to say hello (while I was gone). I asked Jorge if she saw the window and he said yes. In my mother's voice I said, " You should have given me a key and this never would have happened." Jorge said yes, that is EXACTLY what she said. I will not post on here how much we paid to repair the DOUBLE paned window, but it was a few hundred pennies...The lesson to this story is not that my mother was right but that we need to make sure we have a key hidden somewhere. Maybe we should invest in one of those "fake" rocks.
Saturday, July 10, 2010
Skinny Bitch
So, I have been getting on the treadmill ALL month...I know that's only a little over a week but hey it's a start. I have been running for 5 minutes then walking for 5 minutes for a total of 30 minutes. It works up a solid sweat, I burn about 300 calories and feel great afterward.
After my workout yesterday I grab a magazine (OK I think) and there's an article about Gisele Bunchen in it. You know the beautiful skinny Victoria Secret Model that got knocked up by Tom Brady. The caption says, "what baby weight, Gisele shot this bikini ad just 8 weeks after giving birth to Benjamin." Are you freaking kidding me? I have a few theories on this one:
1) Either she was never really pregnant in the first place, it was a pillow stuffed in there for the paparazzi.
2) The caption was a typo and they meant to write 8 months, instead of 8 weeks.
3) She is just a freak of nature and only drinks water and chews sugarless gum. I was disgusted. I ate some damn french fries the other day and gained a pound. Gisele go back to Brazil you're making us all look bad.
After my workout yesterday I grab a magazine (OK I think) and there's an article about Gisele Bunchen in it. You know the beautiful skinny Victoria Secret Model that got knocked up by Tom Brady. The caption says, "what baby weight, Gisele shot this bikini ad just 8 weeks after giving birth to Benjamin." Are you freaking kidding me? I have a few theories on this one:
1) Either she was never really pregnant in the first place, it was a pillow stuffed in there for the paparazzi.
2) The caption was a typo and they meant to write 8 months, instead of 8 weeks.
3) She is just a freak of nature and only drinks water and chews sugarless gum. I was disgusted. I ate some damn french fries the other day and gained a pound. Gisele go back to Brazil you're making us all look bad.
Thursday, July 1, 2010
Breast is the best?
As soon as your baby is born you have a dozen people coming in and out of your hospital room encouraging you to breast feed. Some of them even touch and squeeze your breast while trying to get it in your baby's mouth (we'll call my nurse Ms. Tuna because that is what her breath smelled like as she stood an inch from my face-gross!). I also visited with a lactation lady who still breast fed her 48 month old son, yes that's right FOUR YEAR OLD son. Yikes! That's about 3 years too long people!
I do agree with these intrusive people to some extent. Breast fed babies don't get sick as often, they have a better immune system, it's FREE (hey that formula cost 20 something dollars a box. It also helps mom's uterus to shrink back to size quicker...I could go on and on.
BUT-it also enables mom to get up for every feeding. I haven't introduced the bottle to Mia yet because she's only 4 weeks old and she latches on so well and I am afraid I will mess that up by introducing the bottle (call me crazy-but she nurses SO much better than Hudson did). Plus I am going back to work and everything I have pumped is being stored in the freezer for my departure to my 9 hour days back at Humble High. So I feed her every feeding and I love it! Don't get me wrong. The closeness that only her and I can share, watching her nuzzle my breast and cuddle up with me when she's done. But I miss sleep!! Even if Jorge did give her a bottle and let me sleep I would still need to pump to keep up my supply, wouldn't I? So I figure I might as well be the one up with her.
I also can't "tie one on" like I have been wanting to do for the past 11 months. For those of you who know me know I can drink with the best of them, beer, wine, vodka...I don't really have a personal favorite. But since I had Hudson my drinking days have been very minimal. It's just not worth having a hangover the next morning when you have a child as an alarm clock.
So, after saying all this is the breast really the best? For some people it is, and for some it definitely is not. Every mom knows what is best for them and their child. Don't let those tuna mouthed nurses stick your breast where you don't want it. Being a mom is awesome no matter what kind of milk you feed your baby.
I do agree with these intrusive people to some extent. Breast fed babies don't get sick as often, they have a better immune system, it's FREE (hey that formula cost 20 something dollars a box. It also helps mom's uterus to shrink back to size quicker...I could go on and on.
BUT-it also enables mom to get up for every feeding. I haven't introduced the bottle to Mia yet because she's only 4 weeks old and she latches on so well and I am afraid I will mess that up by introducing the bottle (call me crazy-but she nurses SO much better than Hudson did). Plus I am going back to work and everything I have pumped is being stored in the freezer for my departure to my 9 hour days back at Humble High. So I feed her every feeding and I love it! Don't get me wrong. The closeness that only her and I can share, watching her nuzzle my breast and cuddle up with me when she's done. But I miss sleep!! Even if Jorge did give her a bottle and let me sleep I would still need to pump to keep up my supply, wouldn't I? So I figure I might as well be the one up with her.
I also can't "tie one on" like I have been wanting to do for the past 11 months. For those of you who know me know I can drink with the best of them, beer, wine, vodka...I don't really have a personal favorite. But since I had Hudson my drinking days have been very minimal. It's just not worth having a hangover the next morning when you have a child as an alarm clock.
So, after saying all this is the breast really the best? For some people it is, and for some it definitely is not. Every mom knows what is best for them and their child. Don't let those tuna mouthed nurses stick your breast where you don't want it. Being a mom is awesome no matter what kind of milk you feed your baby.
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